We went to our first marriage counceling session Friday evening. I'm not sure what I expected but it was nice to have a mediator. We even talked very civil and honest after we got home. I feel that we've both decided without verbalizing that we are seperated but living in the same house. I tend to give him all the space he needs. We aren't sleeping together now. He also told me on Valentine's Day that he felt like he was using me for sex. The sex was great as far as I was concerned so what does that mean...he was using me. Was he pretending I was someone else? I don't know but hearing that that is how he feels is enough reason to not do IT anymore. He still hugs me goodnight and kisses me goodbye so I'll just hold on to the little hope I have right now.