Do you feel really lost in your life? Are you in a midlife crisis and don't have a clue what to do about it? »more»

Do you feel like you are in a battle for your life?

A lot of us do. We feel that unease and restlessness and want to make it go away. The harder we try to ignore it, distract it or drug it, the more miserable we feel. »more»

Somewhere along the way, we got the idea that to do meaningful work - work that makes a difference means we have to sacrifice personal wealth, profit and success. We associate work that makes a difference with the terms "non-profit", volunteerism and personal sacrifice. It creates a kind of starving artist mentality. I want to challenge that ‘either/or’” notion. »more»

Master Mind groups are formal groups (I recommend no more than 4) that come together in person or by phone to support each other in whatever the individuals want help on. It harnesses the synergy of a team that you normally find in an organizational environment. »more»

In my last article, "How to start figuring out what you want to do next", I laid out a way to start identifying the kind of life you want. »more»

“But I don’t know what I want to do?” This frustrated exclamation wasn’t coming from a twenty-something. This was my 52 year old coaching client. He had a 26 year career under his belt and wanted a change. He knew he wanted to take the early-out retirement being offered and start a new life. But doing what? »more»

You may have read my other posts and know I work with professional men in the middle of their lives who are dissatisfied with how it is going.

There is a restlessness and unease that many men struggle with that I call the Disquiet. »more»

Want to learn more about the Disquiet?

Want to get some ideas on how to work with your own Disquiet?

The February 26th issue of Newsweek has a cover story on men and depression. In it, Julie Scelfo writes:

"Six million American men will be diagnosed with depression this year. But millions more suffer silently, unaware that their problem has a name or unwilling to seek treatment. »more»

As many of us baby boomers are settling into the middle part of our lives, we are not thinking about retirement or stopping work. Whether for financial reasons or wanting to do something different than the traditional modes of retirement, most of us are not planning on stopping work anytime soon. »more»

After many years of working around human development, I have watched people who go through significant growth experience stress in their families. Even when change is for the better, change is still change. »more»

I was reading this article how to become a better dad on the Men's Health Magazine Blog recently. It had some good points. »more»

I couldn’t take my hands off my steering wheel. It was like they had melted onto the wheel. I couldn’t get out of the car and I couldn’t move. I sat in my office parking lot. I couldn’t go in. What was wrong with me? I just could not do another day of endless meetings that went nowhere, writing memos that just sat in stacks, and get angry with how we had no real leadership. I just sat there. Finally, after what seemed like hours I drove home and called in sick. I knew I was in trouble. »more»

I believe many people who struggle in a midlife crisis feel they are alone. This is a tough passage in life to navigate by yourself. In addition to actually helping us, our communities of support also reflect back to us who were are for them. When we get isolated, we often lose the ability to remember who we are. »more»

To continue the discussion started earlier in Part 1, here are some things you can do:

Ask questions, but in a way that helps. »more»

PART 1

That question arises usually after a husband has become a Dr Jelly/Mr. Hyde, switching from his "normal, old self" to a screaming abusive monster over the slightest trigger. Or, at the other extreme, he becomes withdrawn and non-communicative. And then the times when it's too late, he has fallen for a young woman, had an affair and run off leaving you and the kids.

And even if it's not too late, what can a spouse do? »more»

Just about everyone I know has struggled with the New Year Resolution Game. It goes something like this: You declare the changes you will make as a result of being unhappy, frustrated and even disgusted with your current state. You feel pumped, committed, and in-action. You buy gear, join clubs, start diets, order books, buy clothes... all the things you need to be a new you. »more»

By now, you have picked up on one of the central themes in how to navigate your mlc is to engage with your experiences, feelings and emotions directly.

That can be pretty hard to do, so one of the first skills I teach new clients is an exercise on how to stay solidly grounded. It's easy and very useful. You can read it below. »more»

In the previous post I outlined things to avoid doing when working with your MLC. I went into detail on the first two. They are don't:

~~ignore it
~~jump into re-action

Today, I will do into detail on the rest. Don't:

~~drug it
~~make fun of it
~~take it on alone »more»

Whatever you do, don’t do this
Ways not to handle your midlife crisis

Working through a mid-life crisis (mlc) is tricky. It is a very personal and isolating experience. Like transitions at other times of our life, navigating midlife is confusing and challenging. We are almost hard-wired with the thinking that if we are suffering, there must be a problem. And if there is a problem, it should be quickly figured out and resolved. »more»

You have heard me talking a lot about my new work with men and the Disquiet™ in their lives. Now you have a chance to hear a man talk about his experience with his own Disquiet.

On Tuesday, December 5 at 1pm EST, I will be interviewing Lyle T. Lachmuth, AKA The Unsticking Coach(TM) . Lyle is a great guy with an amazing life story. »more»

We have all seen the TV shows about it and laughed at the jokes. We have even seen it. The paunchy guy with little hair and thick glasses sitting behind the wheel of a BMW Z3 coup. The corvette that zips by you being driven by some nerdy looking guy. Or the dock shoes, no socks, white Levis and blazer worn by the 56 year old with a blond on his arm who isn’t his daughter. »more»

I found an interesting article by the author of a new book about how our careers are affected by our fathers.

From an article in Mens Insight Magazine by Dr. Steven B. Poulter. The book is titled: The Father Factor: How Your Father's Legacy Impacts Your Career. »more»

Do you feel like there is something wrong with your life?

Is there a restlessness or unease that wakes you at 2am? This disquiet shows up in different ways. For men it relates to their sense of success – at work and as men. »more»